The following blog is an open door to some of the thoughts and feelings I’ve been experiencing over the last several weeks…yikes! As a coach, business owner, and human being – I often feel that I must have it all “together” when I post things because I’m supposed to, right? I’m the one whom people are meant to come to when they need support in moving their life forward – not the one who sometimes feels insecure, afraid, and at times, like an imposter. But alas, I am human, and I do get scared and I second-guess myself from time to time. That’s part of the normal human condition! So…I know it’s been awhile since the last blog post – my apologies – however, I’m hopeful the following may give you some insight toward understanding where I’ve been.
Focus. Focus. Focus. That’s what I have been telling myself over the last couple months while trying to build awareness of my business while working a full-time job. It’s what I’ve been telling myself when great ideas storm my brain and I get excited about them. Focus is an illusive needle in the haystack because I want to do it all! Now, you and I both know that can’t work, right? At least not well, and not without me burning out before I ever truly live out my full intentions.
Notice I didn’t say “achieve my goals” there?
Recently, I finished reading a book by Kyle Cease, The Illusion of Money, which blew my mind with the vast amount of validation for letting go of the idea that checking off the accomplishments I make in my life somehow help me live a more meaningful one. Rather, I came to more fully understand the importance of and recognize, at a deeper level, the value of setting intentions for how I want to BE in this world.
For example, by focusing on an intention such as “I want to live my best life”, then I can choose activities, people, jobs, etc. that fall into alignment with that intention. If I set the intention of “I want to bring understanding to the world”, then I will conduct myself and aspire to do things that support and encourage that intention. The “goals” I would have been identifying before (thinking they would help me get to my best life), I have been able to identify now that once I achieve them, I tick them off and then wonder, What’s next? I accomplish them, but they don’t necessarily change my way of “being”. Nor do they provide me with much satisfaction for very long afterwards. However, if I focus on an intention, then holistically, everything in my life falls into the categories that promote how I live and contribute to others during my lifetime.
This whole realization has led me even further down the change process-research-rabbit-hole! Essentially, this has been a continuation of my deep-dive into goal-setting theory and intentional change theory research to reflect on my own personal experiences, and thus, to help others determine the best possible path to take for their own change journey.
Another thought that has kept my brain busy over the last while is about my life’s MTP (massive transformational purpose). This concept came across my plate while listening to a Lewis Howes podcast (if you haven’t discovered The School of Greatness podcast yet, please do!), and my first thought was, “I guess this is like one huge overarching intention, right”? What most comes to mind when I think about what this is for me is helping people live their best life by finding meaning, fulfillment, and value in what they do, how they do it, and who they are until they die.
FYI – I despise the expression YOLO (you only live once) because guess what? You don’t only live once, you live EVERY. SINGLE. DAY – you have the choice to live EVERY. SINGLE. DAY. Guess what we do once? We die once. We only have one death. That’s it. And that’s okay – because before that day comes – we have a ton of opportunities to make our life count for ourselves and for others.
So, do intentions change? Of course. We can have more than one intention – just like we can have more than one MTP. However, we need to be careful of having too many. Because like I said, focus is important – too many foci – fewer results, wishy washy intentions, and a weak MTP you will have.
The other problem with having too much on the go? Not enough time for self-care and brain function rejuvenation. My brain needs a break, Y’all. I’m showing up to work, and I’m showing up in my business, but in no way, shape, or form am I at my best in either one right now because I have too many foci. And it feels crappy. I feel inefficient, less than, and stuck. That’s not a good spot to be in when trying to develop programs and workshops and products that will help me live in my MTP! How can I bring understanding to the world and support people in figuring out how to live their best life when I’m teetering on the proverbial fence about what I need to focus on? I can’t. So, that’s why I have decided to let go of the outcome – detach myself from the results I’m hoping for – and just LIVE in my intention. Create and develop and write and put myself out there in front of people – and abundance will come. I will be living my best life regardless. And so will you.
Having a focus is helpful to building a strong identity as the person I want to be for you – if I am to fulfill my intention, then I must strongly identify with the person who lives in that intention – eating, breathing, and sleeping in that intention. Aye, here’s the rub – identifying and letting go of the programming and conditioning I have had since childhood is the obstacle. Because I can visualize, I can feel, I can smell and hear what my life’s intention is – and it’s DAMN GOOD. But to get there, to make it happen, to shift the coding of my first few lifetimes – that’s the trick.
And it will happen. Of that, I have no doubt.
But, first things first. Home in on my focus. Get super clear on my intentions and my MTP so I can provide massive value to my Keep It Simple community and clients through coaching, social media, workshops, and events. And live EVERY. SINGLE. DAY.
I’m curious – what’s your MTP? What intention could you set for your life in 2020? I would love to hear from you!
Wishing you all Happy Holidays and a Fabulous New Year!
Until next time…
Keep It Simple,
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